Talk. Agree to Disagree, Without Becoming Disagreeable

The activities in Iraq and the worldwide economic instability means life feels less certain for most of us. Rather than avoiding conversations about your deepest concerns, turn to the people you most love and admire and ask to talk about what most matters to you. Say you want to become closer by being truthful with each other, listening to understand – even agreeing to disagree.

We often grow closer when we realize we can maintain our liking and respect even as we acknowledge our differences. Further, we tend to learn more about our hot buttons, not around like-minded people but around those we like who do not always agree or “act right”, like us.

Tips:
• Look to his positive intent, especially when he appears to have none.

• When you begin to grow angry, remind yourself of the core part of that other person that you most admire and like.

• As you stay open to another’s views you keep that person open and close to you.